What happens in your first counselling session

We’ll get to know each other

The first session is an opportunity for us to get to know each other. We’ll talk about what has brought you to counselling and what you hope to gain from our time together. You don’t need to have everything figured out before you arrive. Some people come with a clear reason for seeking support, while others simply know that something doesn’t feel quite right. Both are perfectly okay.

You don’t have to tell your whole story

Many people worry they’ll have to share everything about their life in the very first session. Please don’t feel that pressure. Counselling is a process, and we’ll move at a pace that feels comfortable for you. You decide what you’d like to talk about, and there is never any expectation to discuss something before you’re ready.

I’ll ask some gentle questions

To help me understand your situation, I may ask a few questions about your current circumstances, your background and what you would like to achieve through counselling. There are no right or wrong answers. These questions simply help me understand how I can best support you.

 What if I don’t know where to start?

It’s completely normal to feel unsure about what to say. Many people tell me they worry they’ll sit in silence or won’t know how to explain how they’re feeling.

There isn’t a right or wrong way to begin. Some clients start by talking about a recent event, while others describe how they’ve been feeling over time. Whatever you bring to the session, we’ll work through it together.

Is everything confidential?

Confidentiality is an important part of counselling. What we discuss stays between us, helping to create a safe and trusting space where you can speak openly.

There are a small number of legal and ethical exceptions to confidentiality, such as if there is a serious risk of harm to yourself or someone else. If this ever became relevant, I would always aim to discuss it with you first wherever possible.

What happens after the first session?

At the end of our first meeting, we’ll take a few minutes to reflect on how it felt. There is no pressure to commit to ongoing counselling. If you feel that I’m the right counsellor for you, we can arrange another appointment and discuss a schedule that suits your needs. If you decide not to continue, that’s absolutely okay too.

A Thought to Leave You With

Taking the first step towards counselling can feel daunting, but you don’t have to have everything worked out before you begin. Sometimes, simply allowing yourself the space to be heard is the most important first step.

Ready to take the next step?

If you’re considering counselling and would like to find out whether we’re a good fit, I offer a free 15-minute introductory call. It’s an opportunity to ask questions, learn more about how I work, and decide whether counselling with me feels right for you.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Sue Finlay
Counselling with Sue